His promise's for you don't change. His love doesn't waver nor is it conditional. He is a man  that can not lie!! If he said it, that settles it. Leave it in his hands and rest in his promise. His word shall never come back unto  you void..

DON'T LET THE DOOR KNOB HIT YA

Not so very long ago, I cared way too much. Not about things that were necessary or imperative, but about things and people that were fleeting and temporary. See, I grew up without a dad. So, unlike most women. I will admit that that huge factor caused serious abandonment issues in my life from a very young age. My dad not being around and simply being careless and aloof in regards to being present made me hold tight to people in my life. Lots of times these people in my life's time had long expired, but I would hold on for dear life for fear of once again being left.  No, I was never lonely. As a matter of fact I received extra, super duper love. I was the baby of the family and everyone showered me with affection, love and attention. So much so that I became quite use to the excessive complimentary hugs, kisses and favor. Yep, I was spoiled. Still, the over indulgence of all of that love never seemed to fulfill that deeply seeded longing for what was lost so long ago. Hence, the race for completion began. Wanting to see each and every thing to the end. Relationships, friendships, business ventures. Whatever, it was at the moment. If I started it. I would have to see it to the very end. Even if the clock had struck, the wheels had worn out and the sweet words became sour defamatory slurs. I was not giving up. I'll tell you something. Time, life , trials and faith has a way of teaching you the unteachable lessons of life. You know, the I'll never do that lesson. The yeah, she did that but I could never stand that tall, be that bold or speak that loud. If, your still stuck in that "never me " mentality. Live a little longer. Your day is coming. Life has taught me to love who loves me, keep those who don't at arms length, put me first and if you can't deal with me at my worst, you're not worthy of being around me at my best. If you want to be around, have a seat, take a load off and let's chat. If you want to leave there's the door, don't look back, cause I won't be there. These changes in me aren't to be mean or negative, but it is to preserve myself for those who truly love me and want to be a part of my life. The Bible says to guard your heart. That was a mandate from God. It's ok to love those who you don't like and let them walk away if they don't care to stay. It's ok to walk away from areas and people in your life that are causing you more pain than joy. Remember the door swings both ways for a reason. So that people may come and so that they may leave.

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... #Smooches

Goodnight loves!!! Give it to God and Go to Sleep. #Smooches

THE BEST IS YET TO COME

Just like the uncertainty of the unborn baby, coming into this new world. Leaving it's comfort zone and pushing forth unto to the unknown. The light from the new world Pierce's it's eyes. He squints and flinches at the very thought and fear of what shall come. Many of us are in that very same season of our lives today. God is calling us out of our ordinary lives and calling us into our destined and rightful places. Stand firm, hold fast and continue the journey. The pain and discomfort of it all are merely growing pains that will resurrect us into new, complete creatures. Trust the process. The best is yet to come..

Just Knock

 Friends, I cannot tell a lie, it has truly been a long, stressful week for me. Not physically but definitely mentally. During that period the enemy tried to whisper many lies to me. I almost lost my footing and got off course. But, God..  Because when I think of the goodness of Jesus and all that he has done for me.. My soul cries out hallelujah, thank you God for blessing me. So, I'm back and I'm focused and I am rejuvenated with the holy spirit. Trials and tribulations will come. But, it is up to us to continue to thank him in those times. If for nothing else the fact that this too shall pass. Maybe not today, but joy will Surely cometh in the morning.

Remember my loves.. God loves you and so do I.
Until next time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... #Smooches

In the midst of our troubles we can always depend on the comforter to bring us the peace that surpasses all understanding...

SEXUAL SOUL TIES

This has been a topic that I have long researched and studied. I can remember being first introduced to the thought that such a thing was even possible. My skepticism made me more eager to go deeper in depth to learn the hidden novelties and mysteries to this newly talked about phenomenon that had apparently been spoke about biblicaly throughout history and generations. And had always been right under or noses as a warning.  The sexual soul tie takes place when two people who are NOT married commit the act of fornication with one another. If you are a non christian. This will probably go way over your head. But keep reading, this will be helpful to you in the long run. The Soul of a person is the immaterial energy, life force and nature of a person. It is a being in and of its self. As Christians we are taught that our bodies are simply fleshly vessels that harbor our actual beings. Which is also called our Souls. Sex was designed for a Husband and a Wife. When we step outside of Gods will and Fornicate with a person that is not our Husband or Wife we create Sexual Soul Ties. You ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend from way, way back that you just can't seem to ever get off your mind. It may have been 15, 20 years since you two have last seen one another yet, His or Face remains a constant in your thoughts. If the two of you consummated that relationship the thoughts of them could be the workings of an Ungodly Sexual Soul Tie. The tie is created when the energies from both parties are swapped during intercourse. 

You are then left with a deposit or remnant of that persons being within you. As I write this blog post. I am ministering to myself. I've been there, Am there and am hoping to be delivered from one as we speak. 

For the sake of knowledge and to help you guys understand the severity of this tie. I am going to attach a few links and references. I hope and pray that this topic brings someone that may be struggling to remove themselves from something or someone unhealthy right now, That may feel bound and tied to that person. Knowledge is power..

The You tube excerpt is a sermon from Prophetess Jaunita Bynum titled" No More Sheets" It delves deep into the heart of the soul tie. How it will make you behave, what it will take you through and lastly how to get out of it. 

I know you holy folks won't need this. Yall have never stepped out of the will of God and needed to seek deliverance. So this is simply for my sisters and brothers who recognize that there hearts and souls may be tied to something that it should not be. May you find this helpful.

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves... #Smooches

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4VpzfsEjN4

LEARNING TO SPEAK EACH OTHERS LANGUAGE

TGIF, I hope everyone has had a blessed week.

 Have you ever known a couple that seemed to be made for one another. They communicate with ease and not only are they romantically suited for each other, But, they are actually friends and can have an enjoyable time with one another. Looking at this couple from the outside makes you wonder what there recipe for love is. Especially if you and your boo never seem to be on the same page about anything. Not the type of toilet paper you should buy, Not who gets what side of the bed.. Just Nothing. Well, I think I've found the secret to relationship longevity. And it appears to be rather simple.It's all in the love language. See, each person has an individualized way that they need and require to be loved. Its ingrained in there being. Nothing or anyone can change it. Its how they desire to be loved.I'm a touchy feely sort of girl. I like to hold hands, lay my head on your chest and be close to my significant other. It makes me feel a sense of peace ,joy and fulfillment with my partner. That would make my love language (Physical Touch). Now, my spouses love language may be (Words of Affirmations). Which means what I respond to emotionally will not necessarily be enough for my guy. If I try to please him with what works for me he may end up not being fulfilled. Because he requires being loved in a totally different way. Causing the relationship to be imbalanced. Now, I am not by any means saying that all relationship issues can be solved with acknowledging and implementing this technique. Some folks are simply unequally yoked and should just not be together under any circumstances. (That's a whole other blog). But for couples who are genuinely eager to figure out how to make the best of there love. I think this will surely prove to be a worthwhile technique. I had never heard of Love Languages until about a year ago when a friend of mine started talking about how her guy responded to her after disagreements. It was such an interesting theory that I had to do my research and found that it was actually true indeed. 

For all of you booed up folks, take a look at the chart above for reference. Learn your Love Language and what makes you tick emotionally and then take a moment to figure out which one applies to your significant other. What do you have to lose? Nothing beats a failure but a try guys..

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves... #Smooches 

A GOOD GUY WITH A DASH OF SPICE

Happy Hump Dayyyy! (Cue Camels and music)..  People often ask, whats your type when dating. For a long time I really didn't have a firm definition of a type that I would or would not go for. It was usually the sort of thing that I had to actually see in order to determine if I could or not. Lots of women hold these immovable preferences of only short, only tall, college degree, street thug, kids, no kids as a graph of whom they will even consider entering into a relationship with. And I totally get there reasons. Chemistry is utterly important in any romantic union. I mean how could you lay beside someone every night that you weren't even the least bit attracted to. To me that would be a disaster waiting to happen. Cheating in that relationship would almost be certain. In the past I had been guilty of creating these ridiculous dating rule faux pas as well. Only dating a certain caliber or type of man. (PUHLEASE).. Just to learn later in life that the best things can actually come from people or places you least expect it. Yall, I use to love Destiny Childs song "Soldier". ( I still have it on my play list today). It was my man Anthem.If his status wasn't hood I wasn't checking for him. He had to be swagged out, a little bit of hood, but not so much so that I couldn't take him around my family. Boy, Have those times changed. At this point in my life I am looking for stability, serenity and someone that I don't have to remind to put the toilet seat down. Sounds fairly simple right? Yeah, because it is for me now. I had to realize that the types that I was idealizing in my mind wouldn't be able to necessarily accommodate where I was headed in life. Leaving us unequally yoked and headed down a road of unhappiness and emotional destruction. Now don't misunderstand what I am saying. I absolutely need, want and love a man that isn't afraid to get his hands dirty, knows how to change a tire or even rotate mine If I need it. I adore a man that knows how to balance his professional life and his personal life and doesn't feel the need to go out on a date with me dressed in his Sunday best or his flyest work suit. (NAWWWW).. I don't want that. I also have a tendency to be a bit aggressive at times and in your face. ( Short people syndrome).. So, he must possess enough backbone to put me in my place when needed. Because I will most definitely come out of pocket a time or two. But overall I think that with age comes wisdom. I haven't been lucky enough to find who God has for me. But I am now in the mindset of looking at the people that I choose to be a part of my life in a different way. Longevity is now important to me and not what he drives or wears. Those things have become unimportant. They really should have always been but you live and you learn....

1 Corinthians 13:11King James Version (KJV)

11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

A BREATH OF FRESH AIR----AFTER THE SMOKE

Let's be honest singles.. In today's dating game its become really difficult to meet someone that can actually peak your interest intellectually. I mean I've met my fair share of wanna be pretty boys that can spend a few dollars on a steak and crab-cake over dinner and think that because they dropped a few coins on you, he was a shew in for a hookup. I've also met a few bad boys that were upfront and honest about the fact that they were looking for a booty call or a cuddle buddy with no strings attached. With these fella's I directed them to make a swift exit to stage left . Normally either with the fade away or if I was in a really foul mood because of there behavior I'd give them a piece of my mind using a few choice words that I'd later have to repent for and head to the Alter on Sunday in shame. ( Don't judge me). But recently I had the opportunity to spend a few hours chatting it up with someone that actually could hold an intellectual conversation with little to no Ebonics . It was actually refreshing. He didn't try to put the moves on me, tell me how phat my booty was or even make one mention of sex. Now, its still extremely too early for me to actually tell if this is sincere but I've kinda learned through this whole single thing to just enjoy the moment of it all. And to just go with the flow. Hopefully this does not turn out to be another one of those ( SIKE GOTCHA MOMENTS). Cause I'm frankly sick and tired of telling folks where to shove it and how far. But, only time will tell. Right?

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves.. # Smooches