Don't Stop Pushing

Staring into the face of our failures can be  one of the most daunting experiences in life. It often leaves us broken and bitter to know that our best efforts may not have resulted in our favor. But knowing that each new day brings new opportunity which brings new possibilities is the best feeling ever. Though our yesterday efforts may have failed. Believing that our tomorrow opportunities could result in us reaching our goals and being victorious, makes the stumble worth while. Always remember your efforts are not in vain.
 Your 1st best try may not always turn out the way you hoped, but..
 Keep trying and never give up
 Your blessing may be behind that closed door!!!

Don't Get It Twisted

I'm Still In Shock- But God

Swing Lowwwww, Sweet Chariottttt, Coming for to carry me hommmme!

That's my theme song right now regarding the new President Elect.. I like most Americans am still awaiting for Ashton Kutcher to jump out of a closet and announce to me " You've been punked".. But according to CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX and Anderson Cooper.. It's not a game.

My personal opinion towards our new president is no secret. I clearly feel as though he's not a qualified candidate and will cost Americans a great deal of upward progression, economically, socially and agriculturally. However, I am not weary nor afraid of the outcome that he may bring on the number of facets forementioned.

Namely because he is merely a man.. I am here for but one purpose when it all comes down to reality. And that is to exalt the Lord. 

As Christians we must always remember that we are In the World but Not of the world. We are called to stand firm in perilous and uncertain times such as the present. Not only for ourselves but more so to exude discipline and strength to unbelievers, so that they may be inspired to find out where that strength comes from. Shall I be upfront with you all and say that briefly my soul became vexed with the thought of America being run by an openly aggressive extremist. That has had no problem expressing his disdain and negative opinions of people of color, women and the handicapped. I was mortified at 2:00am 11/9 when I flicked on my t.v. and saw the headline that Hilary Clinton had conceded the race and called to Congratulate Mr. Trump. Mortified!!! 

But thank God for peace and understanding.. Because as I rose this morning with new mercy. I was also reminded of how gracious, kind and loving my God is to me and all those who believe and live by his word. 

So on today. I am back in the mindset that Jesus is Lord.. And the Ruler of all things..

Colossians 1:17 says "He is before all things, and in him all things hold together."

        So get thee behind me Satan and you doers of iniquity for there shall be a day. Not to far away where your deeds shall be read off to you from a list by the most high. And he shall say to you and all those that have blatantly turned from righteousness. " AWAY FROM ME YOU DOERS OF INIQUITY I KNOW YOU NOT!!! Matthew" 7:23.

The money wont save him, the title won't save him, The entourage wont save him.. It'll be his time to face the music. Alone, Personally and completely.. 

As a glass half full personality person, I do have this hope that maybe his heart can and will be changed for the better and he will actually do as he claims and " Make America Great". Only time will tell..

Until Next Time. Stay Blessed and Beautiful my Loves... # Smooches

If you build it, they will come!

C'MON SON

Hey guys, TGIF. Yes, Yes, Yes, I know. Iv'e been M.I.A. for a few. But no worries.. I'm back. 

Heads on straight now, God is awesome and he Deserves all the honor , glory and praise...

"Whew" where do I start. I mean since we last got up so much buffoonery has gone on..

OK, lets start with these Presidential Debates.. Is it me or does Mr. TUPE, I mean Mr. Trump act like a 5 year old boy. If I have learned absolutely nothing else during this presidential election I have learned that Donald Trump suffers from an extreme case of Tourettes Syndrome. The facial expressions, tantrums and outbursts are a dead giveaway to that. I know we all clowned poor Melania in the beginning, But now I truly feel sorry for the sister. "Girl you can do better".

And what the heck is up with Kendu Issacs. The soon to be Ex of the Sister of Soul Mary J. Blige. First dude jumps out there by stating that he should receive over $100,000's monthly in spousal support. I've seen lots of dialog back and forth about how he helped to make her and how he was her producer and this and that. But, I got one question? How many hooks did this bamma sing on any of her songs? EXACTLY..... If he was her producer, than very well. He can now just consider himself to be a fired, unemployed producer...

 Then to make matters even worse. Karrine Steffans comes out with details of an affair between her and this idiot. "side eye. "stank face". Wait, what? So first you was just stupid and we were going to give you a pass on that . But now you a Stupid , Trifling , Cheater. "No". "Just No"

A lot can be said about anyone that has dealings with Ms. Steffans seeing as though she's practically been with what seems like half of the population. She nasty.. And since this is a christian page all I'm going to say is that I hope my girl MJB gets herself a thorough health screening. And that Karrine gets herself a can of RAID for her coochie...

Guy's its a blessing to be back with you and I love you, cuz you love me..

Until Next time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... # Smooches...

#LesterHolt

Someone get this poor man a drink!!!

He's got you and you and you... Relax, take a deep breath and just let him do his thing.

Morning Y'all, Happy Sunday!!!

Fight the power

RIH Bill Nunn ( Radio Raheem)

Happy first day of fall everyone. Let's get the boots and jackets ready. We'll need them really soon!!!

Again?

This is becoming the norm. Every few weeks we lose another innocent black man to senseless, unnecessary, unwarranted police brutality and violence. I've begun to wonder what If anything can be done to stop this rampant issue. What's most disturbing about these scenarios is that while the families of the lost loved ones must endure the media and burying there deceased family members. The law enforcement officers that are pulling the triggers are going on with there lives with little to know consequences. Paid Administrative leave is the current punishment of Terence Crutchers killer.
How does that convey justice to the family that he left behind? It doesn't. They must suffer not only the loss of life but also the blatant injustice of the heinous crime. Guys, I'm tired. The Police violence against our black men has caused me to see things so much clearer. It has shown me what I have always known to be true but hesitated to acknowledge. That as black people our lives are not held to the same value as those whose skin lack melanin. The saddest part is that alot of us are still so blinded to this fact, that we continue to oppress one another.

Until next time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves #Smooches

Not another #

Happy Monday and remember trust God he's got this!!!

The Giver Of All Things

I've trusted in lots of people and things in my life. They all had the same ending. They eventually let me down. One Morning I arrived to the Metro in just enough time to get me to my destination. The train broke down. That handsome guy that I met and fell head over heels in love with, turned out to be a wolf in sheep's clothing. I went to my same nail tech to have my gels refilled and the next day my nail broke. People and things can often times let you down and end up causing you pain. Just when you think it's a stable and consistent situation. There goes the neighborhood and the chips start falling all over your head. However, there is one that we can trust in and he has promised to never leave us nor forsake us. I often wonder why as humans we place so much more trust in the world and it's fickleness than we do in the one that gives and provides all for us. I'm not exempt from this myself. I have a tendency to believe and trust in everyone and everything besides God our Father. The fact is, he is loyal, faithful and is always there for us even when we're not there for ourselves.
It's an area in my life that God is currently working on in me. I'm learning to lean on him and him alone in spite of what the situation's may appear to be.

Until next time, Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves #Smooches.....

Thanks But No Thanks

Oh em gee !!! I've Missed you guys so much. I had to take a hiatus.. You know ,a moment to regroup. But ize back. With plenty tea and juice!! Well guys, recently I had an opportunity to run into a gentleman that was doing pretty darn well for himself economically. He had all of the things that money could buy. Houses, cars, vacationed often and it appeared that he kept a really good eye on his finances in terms of maintenance. Outwardly he was every woman's dream guy. One night he invited me over to hang out. (No y'all not Netflix and chill). I went, only because there was a slight interest and I was curious about this giy. For more than one reason. I got there and he eagerly gave me the bachelor pad tour. It was nice. Really nice. I was impressed and I let him know that he was a great decorator and housekeeper. After I left, he called me to let me know that he didn't feel as if I was enthusiastic enough about his "stuff" (what?) I reiterated to him that his place and cars and pictures and decor were fantastic
 But, that I wasn't necessarily head over heels with his assets. He couldn't understand it. He even made mention of how most women fall in love with his belongings. I has to let him know repeatedly that, material things are nice to look at. And also nice to have . But for me I need so much more to be smitten. I need character Witt honesty, consistency and emotion. I know in this day in time when everything that glitters and blings gets the most attention it may seem strange but. Those things are ever fleeting and always being upgraded and replaced for something newer. Give me substance over the miscellaneous any day. It's what lasts even after the new model comes out..

Remember y'all that iPhone 6 plus was just the it item 6 months ago. And now folks are upgrading for the New 7.

Until next time, Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves #Smooches

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His promise's for you don't change. His love doesn't waver nor is it conditional. He is a man  that can not lie!! If he said it, that settles it. Leave it in his hands and rest in his promise. His word shall never come back unto  you void..

DON'T LET THE DOOR KNOB HIT YA

Not so very long ago, I cared way too much. Not about things that were necessary or imperative, but about things and people that were fleeting and temporary. See, I grew up without a dad. So, unlike most women. I will admit that that huge factor caused serious abandonment issues in my life from a very young age. My dad not being around and simply being careless and aloof in regards to being present made me hold tight to people in my life. Lots of times these people in my life's time had long expired, but I would hold on for dear life for fear of once again being left.  No, I was never lonely. As a matter of fact I received extra, super duper love. I was the baby of the family and everyone showered me with affection, love and attention. So much so that I became quite use to the excessive complimentary hugs, kisses and favor. Yep, I was spoiled. Still, the over indulgence of all of that love never seemed to fulfill that deeply seeded longing for what was lost so long ago. Hence, the race for completion began. Wanting to see each and every thing to the end. Relationships, friendships, business ventures. Whatever, it was at the moment. If I started it. I would have to see it to the very end. Even if the clock had struck, the wheels had worn out and the sweet words became sour defamatory slurs. I was not giving up. I'll tell you something. Time, life , trials and faith has a way of teaching you the unteachable lessons of life. You know, the I'll never do that lesson. The yeah, she did that but I could never stand that tall, be that bold or speak that loud. If, your still stuck in that "never me " mentality. Live a little longer. Your day is coming. Life has taught me to love who loves me, keep those who don't at arms length, put me first and if you can't deal with me at my worst, you're not worthy of being around me at my best. If you want to be around, have a seat, take a load off and let's chat. If you want to leave there's the door, don't look back, cause I won't be there. These changes in me aren't to be mean or negative, but it is to preserve myself for those who truly love me and want to be a part of my life. The Bible says to guard your heart. That was a mandate from God. It's ok to love those who you don't like and let them walk away if they don't care to stay. It's ok to walk away from areas and people in your life that are causing you more pain than joy. Remember the door swings both ways for a reason. So that people may come and so that they may leave.

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... #Smooches

Goodnight loves!!! Give it to God and Go to Sleep. #Smooches

THE BEST IS YET TO COME

Just like the uncertainty of the unborn baby, coming into this new world. Leaving it's comfort zone and pushing forth unto to the unknown. The light from the new world Pierce's it's eyes. He squints and flinches at the very thought and fear of what shall come. Many of us are in that very same season of our lives today. God is calling us out of our ordinary lives and calling us into our destined and rightful places. Stand firm, hold fast and continue the journey. The pain and discomfort of it all are merely growing pains that will resurrect us into new, complete creatures. Trust the process. The best is yet to come..

Just Knock

 Friends, I cannot tell a lie, it has truly been a long, stressful week for me. Not physically but definitely mentally. During that period the enemy tried to whisper many lies to me. I almost lost my footing and got off course. But, God..  Because when I think of the goodness of Jesus and all that he has done for me.. My soul cries out hallelujah, thank you God for blessing me. So, I'm back and I'm focused and I am rejuvenated with the holy spirit. Trials and tribulations will come. But, it is up to us to continue to thank him in those times. If for nothing else the fact that this too shall pass. Maybe not today, but joy will Surely cometh in the morning.

Remember my loves.. God loves you and so do I.
Until next time Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... #Smooches

In the midst of our troubles we can always depend on the comforter to bring us the peace that surpasses all understanding...

SEXUAL SOUL TIES

This has been a topic that I have long researched and studied. I can remember being first introduced to the thought that such a thing was even possible. My skepticism made me more eager to go deeper in depth to learn the hidden novelties and mysteries to this newly talked about phenomenon that had apparently been spoke about biblicaly throughout history and generations. And had always been right under or noses as a warning.  The sexual soul tie takes place when two people who are NOT married commit the act of fornication with one another. If you are a non christian. This will probably go way over your head. But keep reading, this will be helpful to you in the long run. The Soul of a person is the immaterial energy, life force and nature of a person. It is a being in and of its self. As Christians we are taught that our bodies are simply fleshly vessels that harbor our actual beings. Which is also called our Souls. Sex was designed for a Husband and a Wife. When we step outside of Gods will and Fornicate with a person that is not our Husband or Wife we create Sexual Soul Ties. You ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend from way, way back that you just can't seem to ever get off your mind. It may have been 15, 20 years since you two have last seen one another yet, His or Face remains a constant in your thoughts. If the two of you consummated that relationship the thoughts of them could be the workings of an Ungodly Sexual Soul Tie. The tie is created when the energies from both parties are swapped during intercourse. 

You are then left with a deposit or remnant of that persons being within you. As I write this blog post. I am ministering to myself. I've been there, Am there and am hoping to be delivered from one as we speak. 

For the sake of knowledge and to help you guys understand the severity of this tie. I am going to attach a few links and references. I hope and pray that this topic brings someone that may be struggling to remove themselves from something or someone unhealthy right now, That may feel bound and tied to that person. Knowledge is power..

The You tube excerpt is a sermon from Prophetess Jaunita Bynum titled" No More Sheets" It delves deep into the heart of the soul tie. How it will make you behave, what it will take you through and lastly how to get out of it. 

I know you holy folks won't need this. Yall have never stepped out of the will of God and needed to seek deliverance. So this is simply for my sisters and brothers who recognize that there hearts and souls may be tied to something that it should not be. May you find this helpful.

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves... #Smooches

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4VpzfsEjN4

LEARNING TO SPEAK EACH OTHERS LANGUAGE

TGIF, I hope everyone has had a blessed week.

 Have you ever known a couple that seemed to be made for one another. They communicate with ease and not only are they romantically suited for each other, But, they are actually friends and can have an enjoyable time with one another. Looking at this couple from the outside makes you wonder what there recipe for love is. Especially if you and your boo never seem to be on the same page about anything. Not the type of toilet paper you should buy, Not who gets what side of the bed.. Just Nothing. Well, I think I've found the secret to relationship longevity. And it appears to be rather simple.It's all in the love language. See, each person has an individualized way that they need and require to be loved. Its ingrained in there being. Nothing or anyone can change it. Its how they desire to be loved.I'm a touchy feely sort of girl. I like to hold hands, lay my head on your chest and be close to my significant other. It makes me feel a sense of peace ,joy and fulfillment with my partner. That would make my love language (Physical Touch). Now, my spouses love language may be (Words of Affirmations). Which means what I respond to emotionally will not necessarily be enough for my guy. If I try to please him with what works for me he may end up not being fulfilled. Because he requires being loved in a totally different way. Causing the relationship to be imbalanced. Now, I am not by any means saying that all relationship issues can be solved with acknowledging and implementing this technique. Some folks are simply unequally yoked and should just not be together under any circumstances. (That's a whole other blog). But for couples who are genuinely eager to figure out how to make the best of there love. I think this will surely prove to be a worthwhile technique. I had never heard of Love Languages until about a year ago when a friend of mine started talking about how her guy responded to her after disagreements. It was such an interesting theory that I had to do my research and found that it was actually true indeed. 

For all of you booed up folks, take a look at the chart above for reference. Learn your Love Language and what makes you tick emotionally and then take a moment to figure out which one applies to your significant other. What do you have to lose? Nothing beats a failure but a try guys..

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves... #Smooches 

A GOOD GUY WITH A DASH OF SPICE

Happy Hump Dayyyy! (Cue Camels and music)..  People often ask, whats your type when dating. For a long time I really didn't have a firm definition of a type that I would or would not go for. It was usually the sort of thing that I had to actually see in order to determine if I could or not. Lots of women hold these immovable preferences of only short, only tall, college degree, street thug, kids, no kids as a graph of whom they will even consider entering into a relationship with. And I totally get there reasons. Chemistry is utterly important in any romantic union. I mean how could you lay beside someone every night that you weren't even the least bit attracted to. To me that would be a disaster waiting to happen. Cheating in that relationship would almost be certain. In the past I had been guilty of creating these ridiculous dating rule faux pas as well. Only dating a certain caliber or type of man. (PUHLEASE).. Just to learn later in life that the best things can actually come from people or places you least expect it. Yall, I use to love Destiny Childs song "Soldier". ( I still have it on my play list today). It was my man Anthem.If his status wasn't hood I wasn't checking for him. He had to be swagged out, a little bit of hood, but not so much so that I couldn't take him around my family. Boy, Have those times changed. At this point in my life I am looking for stability, serenity and someone that I don't have to remind to put the toilet seat down. Sounds fairly simple right? Yeah, because it is for me now. I had to realize that the types that I was idealizing in my mind wouldn't be able to necessarily accommodate where I was headed in life. Leaving us unequally yoked and headed down a road of unhappiness and emotional destruction. Now don't misunderstand what I am saying. I absolutely need, want and love a man that isn't afraid to get his hands dirty, knows how to change a tire or even rotate mine If I need it. I adore a man that knows how to balance his professional life and his personal life and doesn't feel the need to go out on a date with me dressed in his Sunday best or his flyest work suit. (NAWWWW).. I don't want that. I also have a tendency to be a bit aggressive at times and in your face. ( Short people syndrome).. So, he must possess enough backbone to put me in my place when needed. Because I will most definitely come out of pocket a time or two. But overall I think that with age comes wisdom. I haven't been lucky enough to find who God has for me. But I am now in the mindset of looking at the people that I choose to be a part of my life in a different way. Longevity is now important to me and not what he drives or wears. Those things have become unimportant. They really should have always been but you live and you learn....

1 Corinthians 13:11King James Version (KJV)

11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

A BREATH OF FRESH AIR----AFTER THE SMOKE

Let's be honest singles.. In today's dating game its become really difficult to meet someone that can actually peak your interest intellectually. I mean I've met my fair share of wanna be pretty boys that can spend a few dollars on a steak and crab-cake over dinner and think that because they dropped a few coins on you, he was a shew in for a hookup. I've also met a few bad boys that were upfront and honest about the fact that they were looking for a booty call or a cuddle buddy with no strings attached. With these fella's I directed them to make a swift exit to stage left . Normally either with the fade away or if I was in a really foul mood because of there behavior I'd give them a piece of my mind using a few choice words that I'd later have to repent for and head to the Alter on Sunday in shame. ( Don't judge me). But recently I had the opportunity to spend a few hours chatting it up with someone that actually could hold an intellectual conversation with little to no Ebonics . It was actually refreshing. He didn't try to put the moves on me, tell me how phat my booty was or even make one mention of sex. Now, its still extremely too early for me to actually tell if this is sincere but I've kinda learned through this whole single thing to just enjoy the moment of it all. And to just go with the flow. Hopefully this does not turn out to be another one of those ( SIKE GOTCHA MOMENTS). Cause I'm frankly sick and tired of telling folks where to shove it and how far. But, only time will tell. Right?

Until Next Time Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves.. # Smooches

AFTER THE RAIN GOES- RAINBOWS

Have you ever heard the expression. " If you want the rainbow you've got to deal with the rain".

Bad experiences don't always come to knock us out. Sometimes they come so that we can appreciate the beauty of things once we've gotten past the hard times. Our biggest blessings can come out of our most difficult circumstances. The key to the experience is understanding the lesson that came with your rain. During the storm it can be extremely hard to even think of grasping what , how and why it all came about. But I know from experience, that surely an epiphany moment will arise and you'll be blessed with understanding of the experience. I've had some rain experiences let me tell you. Where during my storm I could care less about why and what God was trying to show and teach me. All I cared about was the fact that I was soaking wet from this storm and I needed to find the nearest shelter to dry off. Now, usually when I was most eager to find shelter, the longer it took for me to find it. Usually it comes when you've finally hit that place of surrender and you throw your hands up and say Not my will Lord but Thine Will be done. Boy, that's the best moment, isn't it? It almost feels like at the very moment you forget about the rain. The storm lets up and the clouds seem to start moving out of your area. This is the pivotal moment when you can either learn from the experience or you simply just allow the experience to pass without really understanding why and gaining knowledge from it. I've been on both sides of this spectrum. It's a process. The issue with just moving on is that you'll probably repeat whatever decision you made to land you in the storm in the first place. I've learned to sit in the stillness of God during my storms. Sometimes its just God and I in my secret place. Sometimes its me crying my eyes out at 2 am and sometimes its simply just Yes Lord I hear you and now I will follow your will.

Whatever your storm may be today. Remember that there is always shelter in the arms of the almighty. He's an awesome listener, never interrupts and he doesn't force his will upon you. You get to choose. And if you decide to choose his way and his will. The rainbow will surely come.

Until Next Time. Stay Blessed and Beautiful My Loves... # Smooches