IS THE AIR ON IN HERE????

It's weekend eve. And it has been a beautiful last 2 days here in the DMV. It looks like mother nature has finally found her chill and taken her adhd meds. And I am absolutely ecstatic.

The weather has been in the upper 80's and it's beginning to look a lot like Summer.

For us ladies, That means, time to pull out the sundresses, shortest of shorts and the least bit of clothes as possible. Look, I love maxi dresses, for me its a comfort thing. Their easy breezy and paired with the right accessories and sandals. You can practically where them anywhere depending on how you dress them up or down for that matter. . Now for me and most women the dilemma in summer is always, Do I spanx or nah.( If you don't know what spanx are, Get your life, then google them on the web). For me, I would love to use them for all the benefits of holding in my extra's. But, I've got quite a bit of junk in my trunk. And while they may clean you up nicely and hold things in. They are just down right uncomfortable to me. And (peeps for children). My ass has a tendency to sweat and those suckers are hot, like literal hell hot. ( Big booty girl problems, Don't act like yall don't know). So each year I forgo the spanx for a more user friendly, cuter and cooler option. The dog on things are just way too temperamental for me. I just can't. So while yall are all tight gripped and perty.. I'll be free flowing and cool...

Stay Blessed and Beautiful m loves... # Smooches

THE AGE OF THE BAE AND FAUX RELATIONSHIP

Last Summer Wale came out with a song that rocked my world.. (MATRIMONY). Ya'll it was my jam. The beat, the lyrics, everything about that song was on point. I know I watched the video about 100 times in the first week that it was released. I was in love... The lyrics spoke to me. I had been in that same situation that he was singing about a time or two. When I had to choose between my 80 or my 20 and it bought back all kinds of memories. I can remember waiting for my 80 to be ready for a relationship and see what he was missing out on and just like the video. He showed up to let me know I was the one. But not before he just couldn't realize what he had and I had to move on to something else. When I think of oldies songs, I don't remember Otis Redding singing about Instagram and twitter followers or as Wale sang it " Staring at my comments, fearing its gone always be you sharing me with all them". Which leads me to the harsh reality of us 30 somethings which are either Generation Y'S or Millennials. Our generation has definitely changed the game when it comes to relationships. Or the lack of. A lot of us are surely coupled up, But- Just chilling, Kicking it or the infamous we just friends. Love just isn't what it use to be. Once upon a time a man thinking the world of his woman made him bring her flowers, home to meet the family or even a ring. But now days a dude will post you on his social media page as his woman crush Wednesday and that's his way of professing his love or the fact that he's "down for you". Its become the new norm for someone to ask if you have a bae.. Like, what the hell is a bae? It's that typical Gen Y and Millennial B.S. Not only can we not be fully committed to a relationship. We can't even fully commit to pronouncing the whole word "BABY". (sigh).  Its so easy to get pulled into the whole faux relationship ordeal. Cause one day yall are dating and completely enjoying the vibe of one another. And you look up and its been 4 months yall are still vibing but there is literally no progression or talk of a future. I'm gonna be honest, for me it's almost like working for no pay. Like , you getting my time, attention and affection. We acting like we something but really when it comes down to it theirs no title and if someone asks him he's NOT going to refer to you as his lady but more along the lines of my friend or this chick I'm seeing. Nooooo, Every relationship should absolutely not turn into a long term commitment.  But if your feeling me, I'm feeling you, we see eye to eye, have the same goals and interest. And we connect on a deeper level. Why not just give it a serious chance????  Turn that Bae into your Baby and make it official. You never know what God has in store.

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” - Robert F. Kennedy

Still Friends??????

Happy Tuesday.. It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood!!

One of my bestest friends is of the male species. We've been besties since elementary school.

We can literally talk about anything. From, Love, Sex and Farts.. Honestly I prefer getting his opinion on certain matters. I feel like men have a less emotional approach to life. And it helps with very emotional people like myself. I have had to call him a time or two while literally standing on the ledge and he's had to talk me off. Now, I do think that I need to point out this this friend and I have NEVER had any sort of romantic relationship. Never even considered it. This is where things get a little tricky.. Can a male and female that have been romantic in the past JUST BE FRIENDS? In my opinion ( And everyone has one). NOPE.. Once romantic relationships are introduced to a situation things get CARAZY!! If I have previously seen you naked and we've done the do.. I will always look at you a certain way. Not even sexual but we definitely won't be bro and sis. For sure... I don't mind my significant other having female friends, BUT.. And that's a huge BUT. If you are now calling your ex a friend. I'm not going to be the most comfortable with that. I'm the kind of person that likes to hold on to people that were once special to me. That's just how I am.. But I also know that not all of my previous loves will withstand the STILL FRIENDS test. And I'm absolutely OK with that. 

My Cup Over Floweth

A friend of mine and I were recently shopping at a local Whole Foods. When we passed the feminine product section and saw the packaging that said Menstrual Cup. Both of us sort of looked at one another with that. ( Should we try it look). And after exchanging all of the possible horror stories that could possibly go along with this little plastic cup we dismissed the thought and laughed. So this little plastic cup shaped device is supposed to be inserted into a woman (hoohah). To catch all of her friendly business during her monthly cycle. I've got to admit, the idea is pretty genius. But who wants to be Carey at the Prom. (UMMM, Not me).

Women go through enough uncomfortable experiences during their Menstrual Cycle's and this new gadget sounds like it could only make things worse. Ladies if you happen to be at a local Whole Foods take a look at it and let me know your thoughts.. For me, ( In my Simon Cowell voice, It's Gonna be a NO for me). 

Don't Be Bashful

TGIF!!!!

I hope everyone's week has been great...

I'm a Christian.. Completely and utterly soled out for God. I pray, fast and intercede when needed. I also do all of the other noble Christian duties, give, tithe and help those in need. Recently I have had the opportunity to spend some time with a few of my Muslim brothers and sisters. Now I'm no expert on the Muslim faith and I cannot elaborate on their teachings. However, What I have noticed is there undeniable thirst for a connection with there Messiah. I was intrigued to find that they pray 5 times a day and are extremely adamant about it. One young lady that I encountered needed to pray at 12:00 p.m. We were in mid conversation and she jumped up and asked me if I knew of a quiet place that she could do so. I was befuddled and caught off guard. Needless to say she went and did her prayer thing and I went on with my day. But, in the back of my mind I admired her zeal and zest for relationship with her creator. I found myself wondering if I dedicated and spent enough time in prayer. Would my life be different? I pray and meditate over the word in my a.m. regime. And at night I use my quiet time alone to connect with my Father. But, if I were in the middle of something important. Would I stop what I was doing to exalt my Lord, or would I be ashamed? Now, you know how you may be on your morning or evening commute and your favorite gospel song comes on. ( For me Marvin Sapps Testimony and Smokey Norfuls Dear God). Will put me into an instant place of worship. I can feel my body calm and my eyes fill with tears. And occasionally I'll slowly lift my hands in praise. But never too far up so that people will notice. Why? Because I don't want them to think I'm some sort of crazy person. That's me having pride. And we all know what pride Does. I know that the beliefs and the faiths are completely different between Muslims and Christians. But I was convicted on that day. To not be ashamed to exalt and honor MY GOD. To worship him in spirit and in truth. No matter where I might be. To allow the Holy Spirit to lead and Guide me throughout my day. It was truly a lesson learned. And while I do not understand the methods and may not agree with the rituals of Islam. I have learned to respect the Faithfulness and Unashamed love and Fervor that they show when it comes to Relationship and Connection with there God.

Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves...#Smooches

YOU'VE BEEN BLOCKED!!!!

One day I was scrolling through facebook. As I do sometimes when I'm extremely bored. And I see someone that was once a friend of mine post on another mutual friends timeline. I was able to see it because my friend commented on the post. ( Yeah, I know just typing that made me confused ) But if you're a face-bookie like most of us are or for me were. You get it..  I see the post, then the comment and I begin to think. Well, I didn't see it on my timeline. I go snooping and wouldn't you know it. I've been blocked, cut off, capoot.. Now, If for every friend on facebook I was receiving some sort of compensation. Then I'd be fuming. But, Ummm- Yeah not so much... So like why? I mean. In my opinion people take this whole social media thing to the extreme. Seriously. I'm sure in the mind of my blocker. It was probably like I'll show her.. But to me it didn't quite come across like that. Here's what people need to know about the whole BLOCK thing. After it was done to me. I was like let me see how this is done. So again I go searching. Man.. Let me tell you, it was hard work. You go here, then there, then type in a name, then do you really wanna block so and so. Then yes. I mean. It's alot. Sooooooo..Let me tell you facebook blockers what us facebook blocked  are thinking when you go through that trouble. (YOU MAD) and (YOU DUMB). I mean there are definitely certain situations where its warranted. Like if you getting mad stalked by a psycho ex that randomly shows up in every place you happen to be. Then you can block.. Well no... You probably should call 911.. But block them after you talk to the po po... (smirk). But if you just broke up with your ex and your trying to prove a point by pulling there chain and blocking them for attention.. ( Go get some business and a life).  . I'm a woman. With lots of emotions and for me I wouldn't even take the time unless its a really serious situation and I need you out of my life. But again if you're just trying to show them who's boss. Don't do it. It makes you look super stupid and pathetic.. ( Just my opinion).. If you disagree theres a comment button beneath this post.. Hit it and let me know what you think.

Happy Weekend Eve. Stay Blessed and Beautiful my Loves... #Smooches

Duhhh.. Like Everyday...

Phenomenal Woman... That's Me

Why Me Being Pro Black Shouldn't Be Offensive

Its Tuesday.. Life is good and God is Great.

I love my people.. Black people that is.. I think our women are the most sensual creatures ever created.. With our various body shapes, full lips, wide hips and voluptuous curves. Not to mention our tightly coiled manes that can hold heat, cold and just about any weather, that most recently every women on the planet has been trying to mimic. Our men are for lack of a better term the bomb. I mean on any given day you can choose between a Boris Kojo Vanilla Caramel and the next day go completely crazy with a tall order of Mocha Chocolate Idris Elba.. ( Sigh). Yall know how I feel about Idris. I can look over my own family tree and see every hue of Beauty, greatness and masculinity. My people bring to the world just enough knowledge to tell an old negro story like Maya Angelou with the class and softness of Nina Simone. My people bad. So why is me loving me such an insult to others? Ion know.. Maybe because its the fear of me one day realizing my greatness. Realizing my true self and living it in all of its splendor. And us finally putting and end to the thought that we need to be someone else to be... Someone...  But I'm cool with just being me. A sprinkle of my grandma's maloto and my daddies kinky hair and here I am. Now, By no means am I telling anyone who to love. But when it comes to me.. Well I'll take my order all black..
Enjoy your days loves!!!!

Round of Applause for the Cause

So Azealia Banks got tore a new one last week for simply vocalizing her opinion. Poor thing got ousted from twitter AND...was even uninvited to the June 4th  Born and Bred Festival.. Ms. Banks who is well known for going off on folks on twitter, interviews and honestly any platform went at Zayn Malik a British Singer from One Direction for supposedly jocking her style and copying her images from one of her videos. Now, I am not gonna lie. She absolutely did say some things that were completely racist and out of pocket. But, who cares so does everyone else.

One of the lowest blows was when she tweeted " Still doesn't change the fact that your mother is a dirty refugee who wont be granted asylum".. (Low Blow).. But Zayn stayed rather cool and simply replied " why you been saying nasty things about me? I wasn't talking about you lol?

To say the least he got sonned. Word on the wire is that earlier today Banks made an official apology regarding her verbal recklessness. I've heard so many different opinions about this situation. My opinion.. ( And everyone has one). Is that she is doing no more publicly than any other nationality. IT's cool for hipster white boys to say my N$gga. And for the down Becky with the good hair to rock dreads and cornrows. And even for a Presidential Candidate to refer to putting up a wall to keep other races out of America. And its business as usual. But when the sister gets fed up and decides to voice her opinion. She's a mad black woman. (STOP IT). To be honest Shout out to Banks for putting homie on the map. Zayn should actually be thanking Banks cause honestly I had no idea who you were until this beef ensued.

Until next time guys Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves...  #Smooches.

Metro opens doors... And could possibly kill you...

Hi guys, happy Friday. If you own a TV or radio.. You've heard about the DC WMATA rail system.. And if your like me and it's a part of your daily regimen. Then your probably a little nervous and Leary when riding. I know I am. Last year when I heard about the death of Carol Glover on the Green line train that was filled with smoke. I panicked. I felt for her family. After all, she died doing something that I do everyday. For so long our rail system was something that we practically took for granted. Don't feel like sitting in traffic? Take Metro. Don't wanna pay for parking? Take Metro. It has honestly been the DMV's lifeline. Now.. Not so much. The new general Manager appears to be fairly set on making Metro safe again. I'm trying to be optimistic, while staying realistic. It's an over 20 year old rail system, that seems to not even have had the minimal upkeep and maintenance. I'm praying for a turn around cause I can't stand downtown DC rush hour traffic.. Not to mention I suffer from road rage.. No.. Y'all it's real. I'm telling you.. # Jesusfixit #healit. Until next time guys.. Stay Blessed and Beautiful.. # Smooches

He's still real

Don't be like this girl....

I am strong, I am beautiful, God loves me. If you can't love me at my worst, Don't try to be there when I'm at my best!!#boop

Hey mom's - check out this job chart for the little ones. It's a great way to increase incentive around the house with chores..

It got better

He didn't wanna take a pic with me

TAKE OFF THE MASK

These sorts of topics are never fun for me.. Its way too real and sometimes I would much rather avoid them altogether. But then it tugs and pulls at my heart like a magnet. Forcing me to surrender self and to speak prophetically. I must first be honest, from time to time I myself am guilty. Of saying or doing something that I know dog on well it just would not be pleasing to God. Like today, I had a random spout with a colleague and instead of turning the other cheek and letting my light so shine. I rolled my eyes, got snappy and even mumbled some unkind words to myself as I went back into my office. All this is normal, Psalm 51:5 says " Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me". Thanks to a forgiving and loving God our sins are pardoned once confessed and turned away from. I'll tell you guys a little secret about me. I am utterly petrified of the Wrath of God. I could take my mamma's woo-pings and even a tongue lashing or two but Gods wrath. Ohhh Noooo. I don't want none of that. Let me be transparent with you for a moment. Because of this fear. I have shyed away from taking leadership roles in the church. For a brief stint I did serve on a Community Outreach Committee. I figured what can be the harm. I enjoy, planning and execution. This should be easy. As I got deeper and deeper into it. I became really uncomfortable. Not with the works of it all. But, the thought of, am I pleasing and magnifying the Lord in this role. As Christians we take our positions and roles in the body of Christ really lightly. (Me included).  Jeremiah 23:1 says“Woe to the shepherds who destroy and scatter the sheep of my pasture!” declares the Lord. Therefore thus says the Lord, the God of Israel, concerning the shepherds who care for my people: “You have scattered my flock and have driven them away, and you have not attended to them. Behold, I will attend to you for your evil deeds, declares the Lord ". That's scary stuff. I can run from the debt collector, the tax man and even a bad relationship. But I can not run from the almighty. He is Omniscient,Omnipotent and Omnipresent.  Which means he is all knowing, All present and All powerful. In the horrific state of the world today. Where do we go for solace, comfort and direction. I sat in the pews of a church congregation not so long ago. Where a highly decorated leader mocked and laughed at what another member was wearing. Nope ,it wasn't too tight ,too short or inappropriate. They were laughing because she wasn't flashy, she wasn't wearing Kate Spade or Tory Burch. She was modest and simply dressed for worship.  My reaction as a babe in Christ was. Oh no, I'm not coming back here again. After I overheard the conversation my whole worship went out of the window. My spirit was vexed and I felt hurt. It's so prevalent these days worship leaders cheating on there spouses, misusing there power and simply making a mockery of the Church. I'm tired of trusting in people that claim to know the Lord, go to church every Sunday leave and lead a life of holy Hell every other day of the week. Tamela Mann said it best in her hit song "Take me to the King. " Truth is I'm tired, Options are few. I'm trying to pray but where are you? I'm all churched out hurt and abused. I can't fake , whats left to do?" Sadly, lots of Christians are in this same state this song refers to. Just tired of the Mask's. People having church faces and then Monday through Saturday faces. People pretending for the saints, the ministers, the pastors, bishops and elders. Not realizing. God is Almighty. He knows your heart, your thoughts and your deeds. It's really sad and when you really think about it, It will take you to a really dark place.  I pray that things will be different for the body of Christ one day soon. That God will heal our hearts and minds so that we may operate in his spirit. Until then. I won't be on a church roll. I'll continue to serve my family, community and world with the Love of God. Not for show, fortune a title or fame. But just because I know what I am called to do. 

Revelation 3:15-16 " I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other. So, because you are lukewarm- neither hot nor cold-I am about to spit you out of my mouth"

Stay Blessed and Beautiful my loves... # Smooches 

Hang up your capes ladies.... At least for the day...:)

Happy Mother's Day ladies enjoy.....

Hey ladies... Try this detox soak. It's a great way to relieve some stress from a long day. And kick start your summer body diet.. If you try it. Let me know how you liked it.. Enjoy.....

ALL THE CHICS OVER HERE BETTER BE SCRAMBLED

TGIF ladies!!! We made it through another work week.. Hallelujah.. So....

Whats the deal with all of these so called glorified side chic meme's I've been seeing posted all over social media. I can't lie a few of them made me chuckle. But seriously its a hot mess. Once upon a time a man cheating on you for someone else was unheard of. If we women found out our man was seeing someone on the side, we would be calling Ray Ray, Pookie and them, grabbing a bottle of Vaseline, a scarf and looking for our New Balance. Not in 2016. Honey... The game done changed. We got Sister Wives and all these polygamy families all over T.V. making this stuff look like its cool. HUH.. Not for me. I'm sure most of you feel the same way I do. Whats mine is mine... You can look but you bet not touch it. Yea.. I said bet not.. Its this whole new generation of young people creating these silly unacceptable norms. Also causing the HIV and AIDS rate in our inner cities to sky rocket..  With a side chick, comes sex, with sex comes the possibility of pregnancy and disease. And if your moral values and self esteem are so low that you'd allow yourself to knowingly sleep with another woman's man. And find a way to glorify it then clearly you ain't thinking about safe sex. I was watching an episode of Love and Hip Hip. ( I don't normally watch it tho. sideeye) And there was a couple on there. Grown folks mind you, fighting over some dude with two pigtails.. Like what?????? As black women we have allowed our self esteem and worth to be robbed from us. I'm not one of those black man bashers. I love my brothers. They are strong, powerful and unique. But as a people we truly need to start lifting one another up. There should be no way in hell that you should meet a vulnerable, misguided woman. And want to take advantage of her. And vice versa. We've got to start giving one another life and not death. And ladies we could start by, If you meet a man and he has a lady.. Step off. Like my Mama always says. " There are plenty of fish in the sea". 

Until next time ladies Stay Blessed and Beautiful.... # Smooches